The hardest thing for most people after a breakup is moving on.. It feels like you’re expected to move on right away. Many people push you to act like nothing’s wrong or out of place in your life. They want you back to normal. You feel like normal will never happen again. All you want is to get your ex back. You’re not ready to let go of what you had. How can you move on until you are?
The short answer is: ‘You can’t.’ It’s impossible to embrace the future when you’re still carrying the past around with you. Life just doesn’t work that way.
So, what can you do?
Make a Decision
The worst part of dealing with the aftermath of an unwanted breakup is that you feel so powerless. You had no control in the situation. No VOICE. It was decided without your consent and you are having a hard time taking back the control you lost when your relationship ended the way it did.
It’s time to change that. You have to start small. It doesn’t matter what the decision is. You simply have to make a conscious decision and believe in the decision you made.
A good place to begin for most people who are still struggling with letting go is whether or not you really WANT to let go. Sometimes, what you really want, more than anything else is to get your ex back instead. It’s still a decision that has to be made.
Just be careful and make sure you’re making the decision to get your ex back, if that’s your decision, for the right reasons. It’s not a good idea to go to all the trouble of working things out and sorting through the mental and emotional aspects of healing a broken relationship if you’re only really interested in making it work because your pride is stung or your feelings are hurt.
You need to know WHY you want to get your ex back and not just THAT you want to get your ex back.
It’s a good idea to sit down and write your feelings on paper. Read them out loud. Do they ring true? Is there more that can or should be said? Are you more committed to the idea of getting your ex back now or are you ready to move on and let go of what you had?
Decide.
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